Parenting News You Can Use! October 28, 2008

Parenting News You Can Use!
October 28, 2008
Volume 2, Issue 44
Publisher: INCAF
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Focus for October: National Communicate with Your Child Month

1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Schedule Winter/Spring 2009
2. Internet, Cell Phones May Strengthen Family Unit
3. Three Habits that Strengthen Marriage
4. Best Resources for Divorced and Separated Families
5. Glimpses of Greatness
6. American Nutrition Sadly Lacking
7. The Great Pumpkin
8. More Pumpkins!
9. Green Halloween Costumes
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior:
The Gentle Art of Parenting

This six week, fifteen hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way
that enhances self-esteem, teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation and self mastery.
At the completion, you will be able to:

* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-esteem
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family
Redirecting Children’s Behavior course
Schedule for Winter/Spring 2009

Post Oak School Bethany Christian Church
4600 Bissonnet 3223 Westheimer
Bellaire, TX 77401 Houston, TX 77098
Tues. Eves, 6:30-9:00 PM 6-Wed Eves, 6:30-9:00 Pm
Jan 20, 27, Feb 3, 10, 17, 24 TBA: JAN/FEB

Westminster Methodist Church St. Luke’s Methodist
5801 San Felipe 3471 Westheimer
Houston. TX 77057 Houston, TX 77027
6-Tues afternoons, 1130-2:00 PM 6-Tues. Eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
Feb 3, 10, 17, 24, March 3, 10 March 24, 31, April 7, 14, 21, 28

Esperanza, The Outdoor School Nanny Class*
639 Heights Blvd *(for nannies of RCB graduates)
Houston, TX 77007 Post Oak School
6 – Wed Eves; 6:00-8:30 PM 4600 Bissonnet
TBA: March/April Bellaire, TX 77401
4-Thurs. mornings, 9:15-10:30
March 26, April 2, 9, 16
St. Martin’s Episcopal
717 Sage
Houston, TX 77056
6-Thurs. Eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30

Course fee: $225 for one; $325 per couple
One-on-one Parent Coaching: $110/hr

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.
For information and registration please call Deborah at 713-840-8663

2. Internet, Cell Phones May Strengthen Family Unit

Parents and children might rush through their days in different directions, but the American family is as tight-knit as in the last generation – or more so – because of the widespread use of cell phones and the Internet, according to a new poll.

3. Three Habits that Strengthen Marriage

How good is the quality of your marriage right now? Your answer will depend in large part on the quality of the habits you and your spouse practice. We are all creatures of habit. Habits are those patterns of behavior that you’ve learned to the point where they are automatic and unconscious. Here are three habits to develop that will actually strengthen your marriage.

4. Best Resources for Divorced and Separated Families

Life Coach Vanessa Van Petten has compiled a list of the best resources for divorced and separated families.

5. Glimpses of Greatness
By Steve Goodier

Greatness is too often defined by an unusual act of courage or a life of extraordinary merit or virtue. But glimpses of greatness can be seen all around us, and especially in those who genuinely care for others. Father Albert Braun was such a man. After his ordination, he requested to live amongst some of the poorest of the world’s poor. He was sent to the Mescalero Apache reservation in south central New Mexico. Father Braun learned to love the Apache. And as he lived with them, he learned from them and they learned from him. They became family.

He stayed many years on the reservation but left it twice to serve as a chaplain during both World Wars. He almost died in World War II when his Allied forces tried to defend the Philippine Islands from attack. Many of his comrades died during the fighting and Father Braun risked his own life to comfort the wounded and give the dying Last Rites. He was forced to march with no food and little water. Along the way, many more of the men died. And in the prisoner of war camps, more lives yet were lost to disease, cruel physical treatment and malnutrition.

Father Braun had learned much from the Apache about surviving off the land. When he went out on work detail, he found fruit and edible vegetables that he smuggled back into the camp to help supplement the men’s diets. Once he acquired the vaccine for diphtheria that he also secreted into camp, but it wasn’t enough. They drew lots to determine who would get the medicine. Though afflicted himself, he gave his portion to a young soldier. Before long, he suffered simultaneously from diphtheria, malaria, dysentery and beriberi.

He barely survived the war. Later, he asked to be returned to New Mexico to live once again with the Apache. When he knew that his own death was near, Father Braun requested to be buried on the reservation, surrounded by his Apache “family.”

Today, at the church of St. Joseph, one can see portraits of the Apache’s greatest chiefs and warriors. There is a portrait of Geronimo, one of Cochise, a picture of Victorio and a portrait of Father Albert Braun, who came to live among them as a true friend.

Father Braun showed a certain greatness, not by any one heroic deed, but by the sum total of a life of caring. I believe we can catch glimpses of greatness in the lives of anybody who genuinely cares.

6. American Nutrition Sadly Lacking

“Even wild monkeys have healthier diets than most Americans,” says anthropologist Katharine Milton, “partly because in our fast-paced world, the emphasis is on snack-ability, convenience, and shelf life rather than the human life.” Read Nonna Joann’s comments on our American diet and leave your own comments if you so desire.

7. The Great Pumpkin

What is Halloween without watching It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown? Tie this in with a visit to a corn maze or pumpkin patch, and what a holiday treat! Read more about this adventure combination.

8. More Pumpkins!

If a corn maze isn’t in your area, use this handy website to find a pumpkin patch. Additionally, you will find instructions on carving Jack-O-Lanterns, the history of Halloween and a list of pumpkin patches organized by state.

9. Green Halloween Costumes

Not only will you find links to websites selling 100% cotton and silk costumes, but also templates for creating costumes your own costumes out of old cardboard boxes and suggestions for costumes you can make yourself. Those are the best!

10. Inspirational Quote

“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence.” … Henry David Thoreau