Parenting News You Can Use! November 5, 2013

KIDS ‘R’ THE FUTURE
Parenting News You Can Use!
November 5, 2013
Volume 7, Issue 41
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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Welcome!
1. Teaching Your Child the Art of Happiness
2. Teaching Your Child to Develop Intuition
3. The Power of Your Word
4. Who’s Down with DAP?
5. Where Are You Speaking in November?
6. Redirecting Children’s Course schedule 2014 TBA

Welcome!
Although we know that the vast majority of what our children learn from us is from what we do (modeling), we also know that what we say becomes their inner voice. That inner voice is very powerful and is a factor in happiness. The articles and videos in this issue of Parenting News explore factors that influence our children’s current and future happiness. By incorporating practices that enhance happiness, by teaching children to develop their intuition, by speaking impeccably, and by understanding developmentally appropriate practices (DAP), we can set the stage for our child’s adult happiness right now.

Enjoy and read on!

1. Teaching Your Child the Art o Happines
Dr. Laura Markham’s eleven tips to teach your child the art of happiness are great practices for everyone to develop the habit of happiness. From managing self-talk to helping your child learn the joy of contribution, all eleven are terrific practices in raising children to be happy adults. Read more here.

2. Teaching Your Child to Develop Intuition
Dr. Dan Siegel is internationally regarded for his insights about the brain and human development. He is the author of several books, including the classic, Parenting From the Inside Out, and the new favorite, The Whole Brain Child. Enjoy this video from Dr. Dan Siegel about teaching children how to develop intuition.

3. The Power of Your Word
By Wes Hopper

Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.” What don Miguel is sharing with us in his quote today is very good advice. Most of us will see what he says and remind ourselves to be gentle when we speak about others. After all, that’s where we’re really conscious about our critical words and the effect they have. But I’d like to suggest that we take a new look at that. My experience has been that we can do a lot more damage when we speak about ourselves in a critical and condemning way.

In speaking with people I know that have been through therapy and mental health counseling, I hear the same story over and over. They say the common problem that people struggle to overcome is not dealing with others, but loving themselves. In fact, in therapy groups, it can be very difficult for people to stand up and just say something nice about themselves.

That’s the end result of what Ruiz is warning us about. If we use the power of the word against ourselves, we will pay a very high price in self-esteem and worthiness. Even if we’re “just kidding” those critical words will leave a mark. Each one shaves a little bit of our self-esteem off and over time we become more passive, depressed and uninspired.

Start each day by looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you!” As Ruiz says, use the power of your word for truth and love.

It will make all the difference.

4. Who’s Down with DAP?
Amanda Morgan of Not Just Cute writes, “DAP, developmentally appropriate practice, is a teaching philosophy based in research and sound developmental theory about how kids learn and grow. Essentially, it’s respecting children as individuals, childhood as valuable and valid, and learning as part of a larger developmental process. Using DAP means approaching environments and experiences with an awareness and appreciation of where kids are developmentally and how they are wired to learn and progress in a healthy way as a whole child.” Read her post – the first in a series – here, and learn the importance of DAP in relationship to happiness and success.