Parenting News You Can Use! November 22, 2011

Parenting News You Can Use!
November 22, 2011
Volume 5, Issue 47
Publisher: INCAF
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule Winter/Spring 2012 (see home page)
2. Very Few Things are More Important than This
3. Felt Food Fun
4. Does Your Child Know Who’s Boss?
5. Immigration and ‘Shattered Families’
6. Beware the Borg
7. Highlights® Hidden Pictures Online
8. What Overprotective Parents and GPS Have in Common
9. Make Ups Make a Difference
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

2. Very Few Things are More Important than This
Kathryn Kvols deems this so important that it is in the first chapter of her book, Redirecting Children’s Behavior. Learn what it is and why it is so important for parents.
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3. Felt Food Fun
These ideas for homemade felt food for children’s play are delightful!
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4. Does Your Child Know Who’s Boss?
Dr. Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting says, “Most of us wish our kids would obey our every request without a fuss. But that would mean we were raising automatons who weren’t thinking for themselves. There will be many times in your child’s teen years where having practiced saying ‘No!’ could save her life. Your child isn’t wrong to say ‘No!’; she has a reason. It may not be what you consider a good reason, but she certainly thinks it is.” Discover what Dr. Markham calls a parent’s “most potent motivator” in this article.
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5. Immigration and ‘Shattered Families’
Adam Pertman, author of Adoption Nation and Executive Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, addresses a recent report from the Applied Research Center which “documents how thousands of children are removed from the custody of detained or deported undocumented workers in this country, and are placed in foster care.”
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6. Beware the Borg
By Wes Hopper

Byron Katie said, “All the stress we feel is caused by arguing with what is.” How much time do we waste thinking about what has already happened, or what already is, and wishing we could change it? Most of us would be embarrassed to add up the hours, days and weeks we’ve spent like that. A substantial part of our lives. We think, “Oh, if only I hadn’t done that, or if I had only done this other thing instead!” Has anything ever changed for the better because of that kind of thinking? Or have you just sunk into impotent depression?

As our quote says, we can never win an argument with what is. It seems that people, events and circumstances are the way they are regardless of how we want them to be. Arguing with things being the way they are is called resistance. If you’re a Star Trek fan, you know that “resistance is futile” and it doesn’t just apply to the Borg.

We cannot change the way things are. What we can do is choose the way we respond to what life serves up for us. We have no power at all over the past, but we have lots of power over the future. Put it to work!

You’ll be very glad you did.
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7. Highlights® Hidden Pictures Online
Your children can now play Highlights® hidden pictures games online. It is interactive, free and fun!
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8. What Overprotective Parents and GPS Have in Common
The comparison between overprotective parents and a GPS device provides food for thought on how we may be limiting our children in learning to navigate the world.
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9. Make Ups Make a Difference
Parents and teachers participating in the Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course sometimes get a little rattled when we suggest that they not request that their child or student say “I’m sorry.” Maggie Macaulay of Whole Hearted Parenting discusses what we suggest children do instead and why this solution is so powerful for building meaningful relationships and for children learning to take responsibility.
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10. Inspirational Quote of the Week
“Perfection never exists in reality, but only in our dreams and, if we are foolish enough to think so, in the past.” Rudolf Dreikurs

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