Parenting News You Can Use! November 11, 2008

Parenting News You Can Use!
November 11, 2008
Volume 2, Issue 45
Publisher: INCAF
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Focus for November: National Adoption Awareness Month

2009 Course Schedule- Redirecting Children’s Behavior
Read Aloud to Your Children
Coping with a Critical Spouse
Why More People Don’t Adopt
Building on Values
Setting Up “Club Green” at School
Energy Zappers
Setting a Green Table at Thanksgiving
Inspirational Quote of the Week

1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior:
The Gentle Art of Parenting
This six week, fifteen hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem, teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation and self mastery. At the completion, you will be able to:

* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-esteem
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family
Redirecting Children’s Behavior course
Schedule for Winter/Spring 2009

Post Oak School Bethany Christian Church
4600 Bissonnet 3223 Westheimer
Bellaire, TX 77401 Houston, TX 77098
Tues. Eves, 6:30-9:00 PM 6-Wed Eves, 6:30-9:00 Pm
Jan 20, 27, Feb 3, 10, 17, 24 JAN 21, 28, FEB 4, 11, 18, 25

Westminster Methodist Church St. Luke’s Methodist
5801 San Felipe 3471 Westheimer
Houston. TX 77057 Houston, TX 77027
6-Tues afternoons, 1130-2:00 PM 6-Tues. Eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
Feb 3, 10, 17, 24, March 3, 10 March 24, 31, April 7, 14, 21, 28

Esperanza, The Outdoor School Nanny Class*
639 Heights Blvd *(for nannies of RCB graduates)
Houston, TX 77007 Post Oak School
6 – Wed Eves; 6:00-8:30 PM 4600 Bissonnet
March 25, April 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 Bellaire, TX 77401
4-Thurs. mornings, 9:15-10:30
March 26, April 2, 9, 16
St. Martin’s Episcopal 717 Sage
Houston, TX 77056
6-Thurs. Eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
March 26, April 2, 9, 16, 23, 30

Course fee: $225 for one; $325 per couple
One-on-one Parent Coaching: $110/hr

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.
For information and registration please call Deborah at 713-840-8663

2. Read Aloud to Your Children

Read Aloud America is a terrific resource for books to read aloud to your children. Conveniently organized by grade level, the extensive list includes title, author and the year it was added to the list.

3. Coping with a Critical Spouse

Are you living with a spouse who finds it easier to find fault than to give encouragement? If so, or if you would like to improve in this area, here are ten tips for coping with criticism.

4. Why More People Don’t Adopt

In this Psychology Today blog, Susan Newman, Ph D, begins the complex discussion of adoption, infertility and family trends. Comments run the gamut of views.

5. Building on Values
By Steve Goodier

“I don’t subscribe to the thesis, ‘Let the buyer beware,'” said the late writer Isaac Asimov. “I prefer the disregarded one that goes, ‘Let the seller be honest.'” Look at the financial problems of today’s world. How many of these problems were the result of inferior products (dubious mortgages, in this case) sold to unaware buyers? I am convinced that long-range successful businesses, and truly successful lives, are built on values. Two of those values are honesty and integrity.

Over a century ago, clothier John Wanamaker, whose retail business grew into one of the world’s first department stores, would have agreed. Wanamaker is sometimes called the father of modern advertising. He instilled the attitude of utmost honesty in his employees. The story is told of one of his advertising people who was instructed to make a sign promoting neckties that were reduced in price from one dollar apiece to 25 cents. After personally examining the ties, the marketer asked, “Are they any good?” “No, they’re not,” he was told. Wanamaker would have been completely honest, so the ad copy had to reflect the attitude of the store. The necktie advertisement was finally written this way: “They are not as good as they look, but they are good enough at 25 cents.” The department sold out of ties almost immediately and was forced to purchase several more weeks’ supply of cheap ties to fill the persistent demand. Wanamaker believed that only a business based on values has real value. And businesses of value are always successful.

Can’t it also be said that a life built on values has real value? And when you and I build our lives on honesty and integrity, we will likewise know success.

6. Kids.Gov is the official kids’ portal for the U.S. government. It links to over 1,200 web pages from government agencies, schools, and educational organizations, all geared to the learning level and interest of kids. is organized into three audiences: Grades K-5, Grades 6-8, and Educators. Each audience tab is divided into educational subjects like Arts, Math, and History. Within each subject, the websites are grouped as either government sites (Federal, state, military) or other resources (commercial, non-profit, educational).

7. Setting Up “Club Green” at School

Here are tips for kids to set up an environmentally aware “Club Green” at school, church or within any organization.

8. Energy Zappers

Here are 11 things that may be zapping your energy. Watch for them with your children as well as yourself.

9. Setting a Green Table at Thanksgiving

If you would like to celebrate “green” this Thanksgiving, here are resources on setting a beautiful and thoughtful table.

10. Inspirational Quotes on Responsibility

“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you.” … Henry Ward Beecher

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” … Joan Didion

“You are not only responsible for what you say, but also for what you do not say.” … Martin Luther

“We have the Bill of Rights. What we need is a Bill of Responsibilities.” … Bill Maher

“The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far-reaching consequence of submission to authority.” … Stanley Milgram

“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders.” … Abigail Van Buren