Parenting News You Can Use! May 21, 2013

Parenting News You Can Use!
May 21, 2012
Volume 7, Issue 16
Publisher: INCAF
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1. Three Healthy Television Habits for Young Children
2. Media, Marketing, and Your Tween
3. Give Up the Drama
4. Do Video Games Influence Aggression and Violence?
5. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule Summer 2013

This generation of parents is faced with more decisions about their children and media than any other generation in history. This generation of children is faced with more involvement with media than any generation in history. Whether it is video games, television, texting, iPods, or cell phones, it is definitely a brave new world. Is all of this technology a mind-numbing distraction or a necessary learning tool to be successful in the future? In this issue of Parenting News we explore the latest word on children and media.

Wes Hopper’s article on drama can be helpful as you handle the drama your child may have around electronic devices! For more resources for parents on children growing up digital and the psychology of the internet, visit the Zur Institute here.

Enjoy and read on!

1. Three Healthy Television Habits for Young Children
Heather Remer, a Redirecting Children’s Behavior instructor in Gainesville, Florida, explores three healthy television habits to develop in your family. Read more here.

2. Media, Marketing, and Your Tween
In this article from Tween Parent, Jennifer Shewmaker writes, “Our tweens are surrounded by media and marketing. With the proliferation of mobile devices, media in cars and other forms of transport, and televisions and computers in children’s rooms, tweens today have the potential to be exposed to more media and marketing messages than ever before. So, it’s important for parents of tweens to begin to think about what kinds of messages are being sent to our kids through media and what we can do to help them process those messages.” Read more here.

3. Give Up the Drama
By Wes Hopper

“If you are dramatic about your troubles, you will have troubles to be dramatic about. As you give up the drama, you give up the troubles.” [Catherine Ponder]

Have you ever had someone in your life that always had some kind of drama going on? There would be a friend crisis, or a car crisis, or a work
crisis, or a health crisis, or….. you get the picture. People that live in a world of crisis like that do it for two reasons – it gets them attention and sympathy, and they’re very comfortable having a mess to deal with.

Not everyone who gets caught up in some drama does it as a way of life. We can all find ourselves in situations like that once in a while. When we do, we can mind Catherine Ponder’s good advice. Keep it low key, don’t play victim, and just handle it.

If you need to share the situation with anyone, do it only if it’s on the path to healing the situation. In other words, it’s constructive work leading to a solution.

Don’t just share “what a bad day” you’re having, even if you are. As Ponder says, as you give up the drama, you give up the troubles.

And that’s what you want.

4. Do Video Games Influence Violence and Aggression?
The biggest fear regarding media use by children is the influence of video games on violence and aggression. In a recent New York Times article entitled Shooting in the Dark, the author wrote, “The young men who opened fire at Columbine High School, at the movie theater in Aurora, Colo., and in other massacres had this in common: they were video gamers who seemed to be acting out some dark digital fantasy. It was as if all that exposure to computerized violence gave them the idea to go on a rampage—or at least fueled their urges. But did it really?” Read more here.

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