Deborah Fry

Parenting News You Can Use!
June 3, 2008
Volume 2, Issue 23
Publisher: INCAF
E-Mail: docdebfry@earthlink.net
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Focus for June: National Effective Communication Month
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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Summer 2008 class schedule
Raising Teens: A Synthesis of Research
Guidelines for Parent-Child Communication
Talk so Children Listen
Six Traits of Healthy Families
Amber Alert International Safety Registry
What’s Wrong with What We Eat?
INCAF in the News
Parent-to-Parent Communication
Inspirational Quotes of the Week

1. Summer 2008
Redirecting Children’s Behavior:
The Gentle Art of Parenting

This six week, fifteen hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem, teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation. At the completion, you will be able to:

* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-esteem
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family



Redirecting Children’s Behavior course
Schedule for summer 2008

Post Oak School
4600 Bissonnet
Bellaire, TX 77401
6-Tues.Evenings; 6:30-9:00 PM
June 3, 10, 17, 24, July 1, 8

Course fee: $225 for one; $325 per couple

One-on-one Parent Coaching: $110/hr www.incaf.com

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.
For information and registration please call Deborah at 713-840-8663

2. Raising Teens: A Synthesis of Research

From the Harvard School of Public Health Parenting Project comes Raising Teens, a free downloadable book for parents. In Raising Teens, the Project put particular emphasis on identifying those conclusions about the parenting of adolescents about which there is widespread agreement among researchers and practitioners. You will find a set of “Five Basics of Parenting Adolescents”, with a list of strategies for each.  Also featured is a list of “Ten Tasks of Adolescence”, which delineates the main aspects of adolescent development that parents and other adults need to be aware of and support. 
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3. Guidelines for Parent-Child Communication

Good communication is an important parenting skill.   This page provides useful information and techniques for parents on how to communicate effectively with their children.  Whether you are parenting a toddler or a teenager, good communication is the key to building self-esteem as well a mutual respect.
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4. Talk so Children Listen

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is a classic on parent-child communication and is perfect for June, which is National Communication Month. Authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your family. The “Reminder” pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages. The link takes you directly to amazon.com to purchase How to Talk.
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5. Six Traits of Healthy Families
By Steve Goodier

It takes some adjusting to live in a family – like changing your attitudes about children and the kitchen. I used to by picky. But my philosophy now is more like Erma Bombeck’s: if it walks out of the refrigerator, let it go!

Some people never make the adjustments. George Burns used to say, “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.” But for most of us, happiness is making the most of our family life, in whatever form and shape that family exists.

Family consultant Dolores Curran published what she considered “Traits of a Healthy Family” (Mass Market Paperback, 1984), drawn from responses of more than 500 professionals who work with families. Here are a few of the top qualities shared by families considered “healthy.”

* Communication and listening. Are you working at this?

* Affirmation and support. A southern (USA) migrant worker told a sociologist that “home is a place to go back to if things get rough out there.” If you cannot receive affirmation at home, where else are you going to get it?

* A sense of play. Charlie Shedd says, “Whenever parents ask me, ‘How can I keep my children off drugs?’ I say, ‘Have fun.’” The family that plays together stays together.

* Shared responsibility. Everyone helps out; everyone pitches in.

* Trust. The fastest way to drive a wedge between family members is to violate it.

* Shared religious core. Does your family share similar spiritual goals?

No family is perfect, but these six traits should help any of our
families to be happier and healthier!
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6. Amber Alert International Safety Registry

With the mission of helping parents keep their children safe through innovative technology, Amber Alert International Safety Registry (AAISR) allows parents to input critical information that can be made quickly available to law enforcement in the event a child goes missing. Parents enter photographs as well as crucial information. This information may be downloaded to a flash drive, downloaded to a home computer or quickly provided to law enforcement from the AAISR website.
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7. What’s Wrong with What We Eat?

In this fiery and funny talk, New York Times food writer Mark Bittman weighs in on what’s wrong with the way we eat now (too much meat, too few plants; too much fast food, too little home cooking), and why it’s putting the entire planet at risk.
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8. INCAF in the News

Kathryn Kvols, founder of the International Network for Children and Families, was interviewed and quoted in an article in the Fort Lauderdale Sun-Sentinel on May 22nd.
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9. Parent-to-Parent Communication

Effective parent-to-parent communication is foundational in a family. In this informative article, the Center for Effective Parenting offers practical suggestions for improving parental communication.
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10. Inspirational Quotes of the Week

“Life is the sum of all your choices.” … Albert Camus

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” … Victor Frankl

“When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” … William James

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