Parenting News You Can Use! January 7, 2014

Parenting News You Can Use!
January 7, 2014
Volume 8, Issue 1
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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Welcome!
1. Twelve Changes for 2014
2. Make Your New Year Visual
3. Conquer the Void
4. Have a Daily Inner Practice
Where Are You Speaking in January?

Welcome!

Happy New Year! Leo Babauta of Zen Habits asks the question, “What will you make of the blank slate of 2014?” Check out the suggestions in this issue of Parenting News for creating habits in the New Year that will lead to greater happiness and fulfillment for you and your family. Each is an activity, program, or meditation.

Enjoy and read on!

1. Twelve Changes for 2014

Leo Babauta writes, “What can you create [in 2014]? What changes can you make stick? These are the questions to ask ourselves right now. Imagine a year from now, as we’re finishing 2014 — what new habits will you have then? You can take the usual approach and make a bunch of New Year’s resolutions, and fail at pretty much all of them. Or you can focus on one habit a month, and use proven techniques to make them stick. At the end of a year, you’ll have 12 new habits. Even if only half of those habits managed to stick, your life would be greatly changed.” Read about Leo’s 12 suggested habits and his Sea Change Program for focusing on each one here.

2. Make Your New Year Visual

Visualize your New Year by creating mind maps or vision boards for 2014 with your family. Both are colorful representations of what each member of your family desires. Younger children will enjoy vision boards – created by cutting out photographs and headlines from magazines – because they are done with pictures and involve cutting and pasting. For more on mind maps including the 7 steps to creating one, click here. For more on creating a vision board, click here. This is a great project for your first family meeting in January!

3. Conquer the Void

By Wes Hopper

John Adams said, “Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence.”

One of the interesting results of writing in the personal growth/spiritual growth area is having to deal with the unrealistic expectations of many people who’ve been told that it’s easy. If it was easy, we’d all be there by now (wherever there is). The fact is that personal change is never easy.

In fact, it’s quite difficult. It’s the process of letting go of old beliefs before you’ve really gotten a good grip on new beliefs. And that leaves a void. And no one likes a void.

It involves deliberately changing habits, setting new priorities, and then sticking with it, even when you don’t feel like it. Especially when you don’t feel like it.

The people who have systematized this process are the 12 step groups in recovery programs. They know that change doesn’t happen by accident – it has to be nurtured. They know if we’re going to change, we have to be accountable – to ourselves and others.

Those are the facts. Are you up to the challenge? Are you willing to make 2014 the year of your breakthrough?

Yes, you are!

4. Have a Daily Inner Practice

The benefits of meditation and mindfulness have long been touted. Science is now supporting those claims, showing that mindfulness can ease emotional stress, improve your physical health, and even influence gene expression. Having a daily inner practice can assist you in maintaining balance and calm, and having an organized program of daily practice can keep you on track. A beautiful program is Journey to Your Soul’s Magnificence by Pamela Dunn described as “precisely what so many genuine seekers of spirit, balance, and peace have needed and waited for: a deeply wise yet highly structured process that moves you meaningfully forward along the spiritual path by keeping you on it every day – with 52 self-contained, integrated weekly exercises.” Another suggestion is The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo, author, philosopher-poet, and cancer survivor. His book “is a summons to reclaim aliveness, liberate the self, take each day one at a time, and to savor the beauty offered by life’s unfolding.”

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