Parenting News You Can Use! January 20, 2009

Parenting News You Can Use!
January 20, 2009
Volume 3, Issue 2
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Focus for January: National Life Balance Month

RCB Course Schedule Winter /Spring 2009
Stealth Health
Food Tidings
Green New Year’s Resolutions
How Will Your Family Be in 2009?
Victory Garden 101
Finding Your Note
Of Swords and Soup
The Greatest Challenge
Inspirational Quote of the Week

1. RCB Course Schedule Winter /Spring 2009

Redirecting Children’s Behavior:
The Gentle Art of Parenting

This six week, fifteen hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem, teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation and self mastery. At the completion, you will be able to:

* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-esteem
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family

Course fee: $225 for one; $325 per couple
One-on-one Parent Coaching: $110/hr

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.
For information and registration please call Deborah at 713-840-8663

2. Stealth Health

Nonna Joann Bruso of Baby Bites discusses sneaking healthful ingredients into children’s foods. She also gives two recipes that sound delicious, and one has a very surprising ingredient!

3. Food Tidings

If you’ve ever organized meal deliveries for a friend who has just had a baby or for a sick family member, you know how confusing it can be. You don’t want the recipient to receive 15 lasagnas or to miss a meal! Now, a new website makes this all easy. After registering, you provide date ranges, food allergies, times for food delivery and more. You then simply invite people to participate.

4. Green New Year’s Resolutions

These resolutions are terrific for teaching your children about energy consumption and about how small changes in our lifestyle can make big improvements in the environment.

5. How Will Your Family Be in 2009?

As a unifying way to support one another in the New Year, Whole Hearted Parenting offers a New Year’s family meeting activity to help discover what family members desire in 2009. Instead of making typical resolutions, parents and children can learn what each other wishes to achieve and then support one another’s success. Access your worksheet for each family member at the link below, fill them out in a family meeting, then discuss and support!

6. Victory Garden 101

Being in nature is of value in many ways for families. Growing a vegetable garden is not only a great lesson in nature but also a way for families to connect. Details and a blog with more information and feedback are at this informative site. This is a great way to go green in 2009.

7. Finding Your Note
By Steve Goodier

A short story by William Saroyan is titled “The Man Whose Wife’s Hair Was Too Long But Whose Understanding of Music Was Too Short.” If you think the title strange, listen to this: In the story, a husband plays the cello and never changes notes. He just continues to repeat the same note without variation. His wife is driven to distraction and finally protests: “Why do you play the same note over and over and over again? Other cellists play different notes.”

”Other cellists play different notes,” her husband replies, “because they are trying to find the right one. I’ve found mine.”

Ahhh, the beauty of finding your note! I think I could like him. Finding your note is something like finding your purpose in life or landing where you need to be. Philosopher James Allen advised, “Above all be of single aim; have a legitimate and useful purpose, and devote yourself unreservedly to it.” He could have said, “Find your note and stay with it.


I believe that is an important part of being happy. Like Helen Keller says, true happiness is attained “through fidelity to a worthy purpose.


In music, staking your claim on one note will drive everyone around you nuts. But finding the right note in life, and giving yourself to it, can be a source of unending joy.

8. Of Swords and Soups

The Tale of Despereaux, a lusciously animated film adaptation of Kate DiCamillo’s Newbury Medal-winning novel, opens as the royal chef is presenting a new soup to the King. Then the story begins! Pair watching this leisurely paced film with making minestrone soup with your family, and you’ve got an unforgettable match! The soup recipe from Caroline Styne – co-owner two Los Angeles restaurants and a mother of two who is committed to quality ingredients, sustainable farming and to making each meal a delicious experience – and advice about cooking with children are included.

9. The Greatest Challenge

Matt Sanders – Professor of Parenting Studies and Family Psychology at the University of Auckland and director of the University of Queensland’s Parenting and Family Support Centre – discusses the most challenging job there is – parenting – and the value in parent education.

10. Inspirational Quote

“Most people live, whether physically, intellectually or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness, and of their soul’s resources in general, much like a man who, out of his whole bodily organism, should get into a habit of using and moving only his little finger.” … William James

Where is Deborah Speaking in January/February?

Date: Jan 22, 2009, 12 – 1:30
Title: “Helping Children through Transitions”
Location: M D Anderson, ACB 1.2345
Contact Information: Irina Zilberfayn, EPA Specialist, 713-745-6929

Date: February 5, 2009, 1-2
Title: “Effective Parent Child Communication”
Location: St. Paul’s Methodist School, 5501 S. Main
Contact Information: Deborah Fischer, director, 713-528-0527

Date: February 19, 2009, 12-1:30
Title: “Positive Discipline”
Location: M D Anderson, ACB 1.2345
Contact Information: Irina Zilberfayn, EPA Specialist, 713-745-6929