Parenting News You Can Use! February 18, 2014

Parenting News You Can Use!
February 18, 2014
Volume 8, Issue 7
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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Welcome!
1. Being Positive in the Presence of Negativity
2. Five Reasons Why “The Bachelor” is the Most Toxic Show to Watch
3. The Value of Values
4. Social Intelligence for Elementary Schoolers

Welcome!

We’ve all heard how powerful it is to surround yourself with positive people. In yogic practices, this is referred to as ‘right association’. Your children may have shared with you difficulties they’ve had in associating with some peers or friends, and we all have folks in our lives who seem to walk around under a black cloud. How do you remain positive in the presence of negativity? How can you teach these skills to your children? That is the topic of this week’s Parenting News!

Enjoy and read on!

1. Being Positive in the Presence of Negativity

Midge Greentree had some powerful revelations when she explored the toxicity of a co-worker who was constantly gossiping, complaining, and interrupting. Midge wrote, “Her negativity was infectious. More and more, I found myself thinking about her negativity, talking with others about her negativity, and complaining about her constant negativity.” Midge’s discovery as well as her practices for being positive in the presence of negativity are empowering! Read her full article here.

2. Five Reasons Why ‘The Bachelor’ is the Most Toxic Show to Watch

Carol Tuttle, best-selling author, writes, “Like all ‘reality TV’ shows, The Bachelor is designed to create drama. How can you expect to put 25 single women in a competition for 1 man and not expect drama? We all know that the producers of reality TV sensationalize things so they can get more viewers. So my issue isn’t with the drama. My real concern is how this show is staged to actually hurt the way we see ourselves and each other as women.” Read Carol’s full article here and check out her five reasons that this show is the most toxic show for women to watch.

3. The Value of Values

By Wes Hopper

Mark Waldman and Andrew Newberg wrote, “Our research, and the research of many others, shows that silent reflection on positive feelings, images, and thoughts improves the neural functioning of your brain.” Every thought that you think affects your body. Some thoughts are positive, and some are negative. Some thoughts are just in passing, some are full of emotional energy. I could quit right now and you would have gotten the message. But there’s even more!

The quote above reveals the positive impact on your brain of contemplating positive thoughts and feelings. But research has now shown that when you bring those positive thoughts and feelings into your conversation with others, you improve the neural functioning of their brain, too! The research also made a very important discovery that we often stumble over. It’s important to focus on values, not beliefs. Values are things like – love, integrity, commitment, tolerance, reliability and so forth.

An experiment that they’ve conducted with hundreds of different groups required the participants to choose one word that best represented their deepest value and share it with the group. The results were very consistent. Where sharing beliefs tends to cause people to divide up into groups, sharing values brought people together.

Now if you’re not sure what your values are, there’s an easy way to explore yourself. Just take that question – what is my most important value? – and meditate on it for one minute a day. Ask your mind the question. It may start out babbling at you, but if you stick with the simple question, your mind will eventually slow down and tell you.

You may get different answers on different days. That’s OK, too.

4. Social Intelligence for Elementary Schoolers

How can you assist your child as he makes friends and experiences his social world? Dr. Laura Markham of Aha! Parenting has positive tips for supporting your child’s social intelligence, and they include ways to avoid negativity. These seven suggestions, although aimed at the elementary school age child, really apply to all relationships. Read the complete article here.