Parenting News You Can Use! December 6, 2011

Parenting News You Can Use!
December 6, 2011
Volume 5, Issue 49
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1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule for Winter/Spring 2012: see home page
2. Ten Things Parents Can Learn from Grandparents
3. Your Unique Holiday Signature
4. Fame and Accomplishment
5. Educators are Going Back to Basics
6. The Face in the Mirror
7. Letters to Santa
8. Replacing Stigma with Best Practices
9. A Jolly Toddler Holiday
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

2. Ten Things Parents Can Learn from Grandparents
Dr. Laura Markham of Aha Parenting! lists ten terrific things that parents can learn from grandparents.
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3. Your Unique Holiday Signature
Maggie Macaulay of Whole Hearted Parenting writes, “Much like the summer vacation – anticipated with visions of family fun that somehow spirals into fighting children and exhausted parents – the holidays may not always look like what we initially envision. The cultural pressure to create a Norman Rockwell event can be daunting.” Here are three suggestions for making the holiday season successful with your own family signature.
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4. Fame and Accomplishment
Biographer Yona Zeldis McDonough said, “Andy Warhol (famously) said that in the future, everyone would be famous for fifteen minutes. Well, he was wrong: the future seems to be a time when everyone is famous for fifteen seconds. Or less. Never has fame, and its handmaiden, celebrity, been so important, so sought after.” Yona discusses teaching children the difference between fame and accomplishment in this post for Tween Parent.
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5. Educators are Going Back to Basics
Educators are going back to basics in the use of building blocks, and one school director explains that blocks are “an antidote to fine-motor-skill deficits and difficulty with unstructured activity, problems that they blame on too much time in front of screens and overly academic preschools.” Read more on this swing in the educational pendulum in this New York Times article.
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6. The Face in the Mirror
By Wes Hopper

Raymond Charles Barker said, “No one can love you until you love yourself, and you cannot love anyone else, until you love yourself.” There was a time in my life when my relationships with others were a real mess. Everything was a struggle, and I wondered what was wrong with everyone. Nothing changed until the day that I realized that in every disaster there was one person always at the scene of the crime. Me! That was when my real work began, and it continues to this day. And as our quote suggests, the focus of that work is to love and accept myself.

It’s funny, but as I learned to love and accept myself, the people around me did, too. Some people left, new people showed up, relationships changed in amazing ways. It’s very humbling to look at the past disasters and conflicts in your life and realize, “Gosh, all this time the problem was me!”

How do you talk to yourself about yourself? Does your talk sound loving and supportive, or is it critical and condemning? Would you hang around with someone who talked about you the way you do? If the answer is no, then change the way you talk until the answer is yes.

Post today’s quote up where you can see it. Put a little mirror next to it. Love the person in the mirror.
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7. Letters to Santa
Letters to Santa are the topic in Childhood 101’s Literacy Spot.
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8. Replacing Stigma with Best Practices
In his recent post entitled Children are the Winners When We Replace Stigma with Best Practices for Gay and Lesbian Parents, Adam Pertman wrote, “News flash: Today, in every state in America, gay fathers and lesbian mothers are raising children. For a range of reasons, not everyone in our country likes or wants to accept this reality, but it is a reality nevertheless. And it is also true that adoption – primarily of “waiting” children and youth from foster care – is one of the reasons for this growing phenomenon.” Read more in Adam’s article.
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9. A Jolly Toddler Holiday
Janet Lansbury of Elevating Child Care addresses talking to young children about Santa as well as three ways to enrich a toddler’s enjoyment of the holidays.
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10. Inspirational Quote of the Week
“Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so you shall become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.” James Allen
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