Parenting News You Can Use! August 5, 2008

Parenting News You Can Use!
August 5, 2008
Volume 2, Issue 32
Publisher: INCAF
E-Mail: docdebfry@earthlink.
www.deborah-fry.com or www.incaf.com
A Certified Redirecting Children’s Behavior ™ Company

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Focus for August: National Family Meal Month
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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1. Fall 2008 Redirecting Children’s Behavior Courses
2. Talk to the Animals
3. Three Grin Salad
4. Temperament in Infancy Indicates Later Behavior
5. The Way We See It
6. Marriage: Connecting Deeply
7. Cholesterol Drugs and Children
8. Family Meals Provide More than Just Food
9. Nine Alternatives to Spanking
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

1.
Redirecting Children’s Behavior:
The Gentle Art of Parenting

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This six week, fifteen hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem, teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation. At the completion, you will be able to:

* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-esteem
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility and self mastery
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family
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Redirecting Children’s Behavior course
Schedule for Fall 2008

St. Luke’s Methodist
3471 Westheimer
Houston, TX 77027
6-Thurs. Eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
Sept. 18, 25, Oct. 2, 9, 16, 23

St. Martin’s Episcopal
717 Sage
Houston, TX 77056
6-Tues. Afternoons, 11:30-2:00 PM
Sept 23, 30, Oct, 7, 14, 21, 28

Post Oak School
4600 Bissonnet
Bellaire, TX 77401
Tues. Eves, 6:30-9:00 PM
Sept 23, 30, Oct, 7, 14, 21, 28

Westminster Methodist Church
5801 San Felipe
Houston. TX 77057
6-Wed. Eves, 6:30-9:00 PM
Oct. 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, Nov. 5

Course fee: $225 for one; $325 per couple
www.deborah-fry.com
One-on-one Parent Coaching: $110/hr www.incaf.com

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.
For information and registration please call Deborah at 713-840-8663

2. Talk to the Animals

The film Babe was nominated for multiple Academy Awards – including Best Film and Best Screenplay – and won for Visual Effects. Kids Off the Couch – that creative group that pairs films with family adventures – suggests viewing this charming movie and visiting an animal sanctuary or farm. Visit the website for tips on finding a sanctuary near you as well as suggestions for the actual tour, including some insightful things you may not think of.
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3. Three Grin Salad

Three Grin Salad – A Kid’s Recipe for a Happy and Healthy Life is unique for two reasons – first, because it is written by a ten-year-old and second, because that ten-year-old’s purpose is to inspire. Author Aja King, now twelve, encourages kids and families not just to eat and live in healthy ways, but also to find a dream and go for it – to never give up and to believe in themselves. Aja’s book offers the innocent wisdom of a little girl with a big message for all of us. This is terrific reading for August, which is National Family Meal Month.
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4. Temperament in Infancy Indicates Later Behavior

Temperament has been defined as “the way we are wired.” Studies have now shown that temperament along with the parent’s interaction with their child as an infant predict future behavior.
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5. The Way We See It
By Steve Goodier

The eye doctor instructed her patient to read a chart on the wall. He looked at it and read, “A, B, F, N, L and G.” The doctor turned the light back on and wrote in her notebook. “How’d I do, Doc?” the patient wondered. She replied, “Let’s put it this way — they’re numbers.”

“But Doc,” he argued, “this is the way I see it!”

Much of my happiness or unhappiness is a result of my perception. “This is the way I see it,” I tell myself. I see some problems as challenges that energize me to action and others as obstacles that stop further progress. It’s just the way I see it. And sometimes I see new situations as fun, and other times I see them as fearful.

The busyness of my life can be OK if I see it that way, or it can be a major source of stress. And an unexpected intrusion in my schedule can be an irritant or, if I see it that way, possibly the most important thing I could do that day. Even an embarrassing mistake can be the beginning of a new learning or an occasion to berate myself. It’s in the way I see it.

One of the greatest blocks to my happiness is forgetting that it is not always about what is happening to me – it’s more about the way I see it. Like Marcel Proust said, “The real voyage of discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” It’s in the way we see it.
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6. Marriage: Connecting Deeply

Author Lee Hefner says, “Emotions are a source of strength and power. And by being sensitive to what you’re feeling and being real with your spouse regarding your emotions in a positive way, you can set the stage for a wonderful, rewarding, and fulfilling marriage.” Read Lee’s Four Rules for Using Emotions to help connect deeply with your spouse.
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7. Cholesterol Drugs and Children

For the very first time, the American Academy of Pediatrics has recommended that some children as young as eight receive cholesterol-fighting drugs to ward off future heart problems. This recommendation is based on mounting evidence that damage leading to heart disease begins in childhood. Doctors are connecting this early damage to childhood obesity. August is National Family Meal Month, and the Weight Control Information Network offers tips for encouraging healthy eating habits.
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8. Family Meals Provide More than Just Food

The University of Minnesota released a study this week that found that for adolescent girls, sharing a family meal at least five times a week during the middle school years yielded benefits that lasted through their teen years.
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9. Nine Alternatives to Spanking

A woman ticketed for spanking her child in public at a July 4th parade has created a national controversy and has revived the conversation about corporal punishment. Many parents spank out of frustration because they don’t know what else to do. The International Network for Children and Families provides practical and easy to implement tools for parents who want alternatives. For the article Nine Things to Do Instead of Spank, please click below.
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10. Inspirational Quotes of the Week

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” … Winston Churchill

“You must possess, at the same time, the habit of communicating and the habit of listening. The union is rather rare, but irresistible.” … Benjamin Disraeli

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” … M. Scott Peck