Parenting News You Can Use! August 2, 2011

Parenting News You Can Use!
August 2, 2011
Volume 5, Issue 31
Publisher: INCAF
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule for Fall 2011 (see home page)
2. Setting Limits with Grandparents
3. Dirt Kitchen
4. The New Three R’s for Childhood
5. A Tough Pill to Swallow
6. Self-Confidence
7. The Food Desert
8. Being Detached when a Teen is Demanding
9. Ten Things that are More Important than Discipline
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

2. Setting Limits with Grandparents
Kathryn Kvols, author of Redirecting Children’s Behavior and founder of The International Network for Children and Families, says, “Have you ever felt like your parents give your children too much “stuff?” Check out one mom’s solution and a clue from Kathryn on how to know when your boundaries are being disrespected in her latest blog post.
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3. Dirt Kitchen
Squiggle Mum writes about creating a dirt kitchen for her children in the back yard. This article is full of great photos showing the project’s stages, with her children painting and arranging items. This is a great summer project!
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4. The New Three R’s for Childhood
Christie Burnett of Childhood 101 writes, “Reading, writing and arithmetic were once the cornerstones of childhood learning but (for the most part) our parents and grandparents still found time to play. Newcastle based Mum of three, Lenora Newcombe, believes that our children are missing out on the good old fashioned fun of childhood thanks to the pressures of a downward push within our education system, over-scheduling, sexualisation and commercialism. If Lenora has her way, parents will find their way to a whole new set of R’s for their children – real food, real play and real life.” Read more about the new three R’s in this article.
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5. A Tough Pill to Swallow
Janet Lansbury of Elevating Childhood addresses the difference between “soft rules” and “insist upon rules” when it comes to going against your toddler’s will.
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6. Self-Confidence
By Wes Hopper

What exactly is self-confidence? Is it some kind of arrogance that makes us think we’re better than other folks? Well, some people make act that way, but arrogance isn’t self-confidence. In fact, psychologists would suggest that it’s often the opposite! People will act arrogantly to cover up their insecurities. They feel good by trying to make others feel bad. We all know people like that.

Self-confidence starts with a joyful acceptance of the fact that we’re not perfect. This is very important! If it’s OK to not be perfect (and it is, because none of us are) then when we make a mistake (and we will) it doesn’t make us feel like a total failure. We learn and go on. If we think we have to be perfect, mistakes are devastating. Don’t do that to yourself.

From that we build our self-confidence formula. We think and act boldly, we learn from mistakes, we know that we can learn and accomplish anything we want.

So we fail our way to success. This is the secret that all top achievers know and it’s how they become successful.
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7. The Food Desert
Daniel Hernandez writes in a recent issue of the Los Angeles Times, “Changing people’s eating habits is difficult. One reason is money. Healthful foods such as fruits and vegetables, whole grains, lean meats and dairy, can often be pricey. For the cost of a couple of peaches, a person can get a full meal on the dollar menu at a fast-food outlet.” Read about the programs that are in place to help shift eating habits and make wholesome food more accessible.
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8. Being Detached when a Teen is Demanding
Maggie Macaulay of Whole Hearted Parenting writes about learning to detach from the power struggles as her daughter traverses the teen years. What we are telling ourselves about what our teen is doing is key.
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9. Ten Things that are More Important than Discipline
Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond writes, “Parenting is a very complex task. If we’re not careful, we will become too focused on one aspect and let the others fall by the wayside. Many times, I see parents who are intently focused on discipline, and I’m talking about the traditional use of the word here with regard to modifying behavior. Sometimes we get very caught up in “What do I do when…” or “How do I get my kid to…” and we lose sight of the bigger picture. The truth is that there are many things that are more important in shaping our children than the methods and techniques we use to modify their behavior.”
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10. Inspirational Quote of the Week
“Self-confidence is a kind of psychological credit card and is of far greater value than any other we can carry.” Earl Nightingale
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