Parenting News You Can Use! April 20, 2011

Parenting News You Can Use!
April 20, 2011
Volume 5, Issue 15
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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1. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Summer 2011 (see home page)
2. Getting Your Child Outdoors
3. Little Boys Need Help with Big Emotions
4. Growing Up Too Soon
5. Being Fat in America
6. Plug the Drain
7. The Kids ARE All Right
8. Sometimes it is Good to be a Loser
9. Nurturing Creativity (How I Learned to Shut Up)
10. Inspirational Quote of the Week

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2. Getting Your Child Outdoors
Kathryn Kvols, founder of the International Network for Children and Families and author of Redirecting Children’s Behavior, says “There is a growing sense in the back of our brains that is telling us that we all are spending too much time indoors, away from nature. This is particularly true for our children.” Read tips for raising the excitement about being outdoors as well as a link to a site that is all about reintroducing our children to nature.
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3. Little Boys Need Help with Big Emotions
Those of you who have taken Redirecting Children’s Behavior™ know that one of the most influential aspects of parenting is your parental response. Science Daily recently reported that the latest research supports that RCB concept. “The way you react to your two-year-old’s temper tantrums or clinginess may lead to anxiety, withdrawal and behavior problems down the road, and the effect is more pronounced if the child is a boy.” Read the entire article for much more.
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4. Growing Up Too Soon
In her Chicago Tribune column, Jen Weigel addresses how parents can respond to a seven-year-old asking for a push-up bikini top. With helpful suggestions from our colleague Charlotte Reznick, guest on Tune In for Your Parenting Tune Up, Jen discusses the juvenile marketing industry’s end of the issue as well as the concept of beauty.
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5. Being Fat in America
John Robbins, our recent guest on Tune In for Your Parenting Tune Up, addresses obesity in his recent article on Huffington Post. Citing two extremes – The Heart Attack Grill which celebrates obesity and Natala Constantine, whose switch to a plant-based diet brought her from the brink of a leg amputation and a life of taking multiple pharmaceuticals to one of health and joy – John suggests “turning shame into a commitment to greater wellbeing and happiness” and “refusing to internalize society’s negative messages, and instead building a healthy life of joy, confidence, and beauty.”
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6. Plug the Drain
By Wes Hopper

Tamara Gerlach said, “Some people and things are faucets, and some are drains. When we have an understanding of what drains us, there is just one thing to do: stop it!” Did you ever notice that as you go through the day that sometimes you feel just great and sometimes you don’t? If you pay attention to those times, you can figure out what’s causing the swings in your mood. It might be a particular person, a situation, a task that you dislike, or one you really do like, and so forth. When you connect the stimulus with your response, you’re on the way to taking control.

Obviously, if you can avoid what you don’t like and stick with what you do like, it’s easy to control your feelings. That’s not always possible, though. Some energy drains will always show up from time to time. So remember, it’s not the people or the things that are responsible, it’s how you respond to them. That doesn’t mean that you should hang around with negative people or disturbing situations. Far from it! But understanding that you control your response gives you your power back.

You can plug the energy drain (or most of it, anyway) by choosing your response and quieting the negative chatter in your head. It’s easier with people if we remember that what people do is never about you, it’s always about them. So we don’t take what they do or say personally.

With things that drain us, we can find a positive way to approach them. I dislike bookwork and taxes, so I remind myself how great I’m going to feel when they’re done!

Remember, you’re not a victim, you’re a person of power. You can create a faucet day that fills you, instead of a drain day.

And you’ll be glad you did!
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7. The Kids ARE All Right
Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Laura Sessions Stepp reports that current research is showing that teenagers really are doing well on a number of key indicators, and she reminds parents that “they are more influential than they think, that their influence has not been lost to peers and popular culture and almost any way you count it, the kids are all right and getting better.”
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8. Sometimes it is Good to Be a Loser
One of the six needs that we discuss in Redirecting Children’s Behavior™ is the need to feel valuable. Buddhist monk Peter Fernando addresses this in his post for Tiny Buddha on the important lesson in sometimes being a loser.
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9. Nurturing Creativity (How I Learned to Shut Up)
Janet Landsbury says, “Creativity is in all of us. It cannot be taught. It doesn’t come in a craft kit, a toddler dance class, or in a parent’s slew of brilliant ideas. Creative sparks happen, seemingly out of nowhere sometimes, and often when we least expect them. They flow freer when undirected, certainly when un-judged.” Read more in her encouraging post on nurturing creativity.
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10. Inspirational Quote of the Week
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” … Maya Angelou

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